How to Divorce Amicably After a Long Marriage

Undergoing the divorce process is not easy, especially if you have been in a long marriage. However, you can divorce amicably, without even taking your partner to court, in several ways. A good way to make the divorce smooth is to hire a family law attorney who can help with negotiating the divorce terms. In addition to that, the following tips can help you to have an amicable divorce.  

DON'T BLAME EACH OTHER WHEN MAKING THE DECISION TO DIVORCE

When divorcing, you will be tempted to blame your partner. Maybe you had the same vision when getting married, but that changed over the years. Or you got attached to your work to the extent that you neglected your family. But irrespective of what caused your marriage to fail, never blame each other when divorcing. When you choose to not to blame each other, you have the best chance to divorce amicably.

CONCENTRATE ON THE BIGGER PICTURE

Most of the issues that cause a divorce are very insignificant. Before you start discussing the divorce details with your partner, it is important to take your time to think about your needs, wants, and non-negotiables. By doing that, you will start the process with a clear mind, and you will handle the divorce negotiations peacefully. Please, remember that this is very important, particularly if you have children and the decision you will make will have a big impact in their lives.

THE DIVORCE TERMS SHOULD BE NEGOTIATED IN GOOD FAITH

When negotiating the divorce terms, don't hide anything from your partner, including your wealth. Both parties should agree to put everything on the table and disclose all their debts, bank accounts, assets, tax returns, assets, and any other important thing. This helps in defining the picture of the issues that should be deliberated and resolved. Negotiating in good faith helps in building trust and keeps the divorce proceedings transparent.

PLACE YOUR CHILDREN'S NEEDS FIRST

Prioritizing the needs of your kids is very important, especially when you want to divorce amicably. You can decide to choose a neutral party to mediate your divorce as this allow you to prioritize the needs of your children and also make the divorce process cordial. It is important to note that every decision made throughout the divorce process should be in the best interest of your children.

TRY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TO USE AN OUT-OF-COURT SETTLEMENT PROCESS

Dragging the divorce process to a court can make the process to be antagonistic, confrontational, and hostile. Never take your partner to a courtroom — not unless you want to burn everything you have built so far. The perfect way for the divorce process to be cordial is to choose to negotiate in an environment that promotes dignity and mutual respect.

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